Hello and Welcome!
For the most part of my life I struggled with knowing who I was. Happiness to me was a destination which I never seemed able to arrive at, despite my best efforts.
My life seemed to focus on everything external of me and I strived constantly to fit into my perception of success which was all about achievement, status, wealth and credentials. Externally I made every effort to look the part but internally I was seriously conflicted and confused. I held deep frustrations which looking back, I can now attribute to having no knowledge of who I was, what I needed and why I was on this earth. I was unhappy in my career path, on paper I looked successful and was doing all the things a successful person would do.
The more frustrated, discontent and miserable I felt, the more I made poor choices. I plunged into self-destroying patterns of behaviour: food bingeing, bulimia, excessive and unnecessary spending, going from one relationship to another and even a suicide attempt which I believe was a cry for help.
There’s a saying that a person becomes ready for change when the pain caused by their situation becomes unbearable and far greater than the fear of taking a leap out of the situation. That was my story. My change came through seeking counselling, self-discovery and a spiritual journey. I learned to own my story, all of it, made peace with my past and accepted that I was good enough and didn’t have to define myself by anyone else’s standards.
A little More About Me
- I am married to Gbenga, a youth leader, and we have a beautiful daughter
- Three words I would use to describe me: Authentic, Un-conforming and Self-aware
- Author of two books “Finding Purpose” and “Me, My Hair and the Rest”
- I drink too much coffee!
- I love helping people get unstuck out of their problems and could do it all day… really
- I am a straight talking girl.
- I changed career after years of being an accountant and loathing it
- I love my work!
- Above all I am a Christian and love God
My passion is ignited most when empowering people break out of their rut, whether it is overcoming a difficult life challenge, or mental health issues, relationship difficulties or helping someone find their purpose and make sense of their life. I believe that the most important knowledge to have is self-knowledge. And this is the crux of the work I do with my clients. I help you become unapologetically authentic and self-aware to follow your unique path.
There’s a saying that “You cannot take your client where you have not been.” I can relate entirely to your feelings of brokenness, emptiness, depression and engaging in self-destroying behaviours to cope with emotional pain. I am as real as it gets. You are not alone.
So, let’s work together to bring your desired change
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